August312014
the-best-of-tess:

This makes me giggle

the-best-of-tess:

This makes me giggle

(via iamthetwickster)

8PM

I am yours if you want me
You can see I’m not mine anymore
It didn’t take much to drive me crazy
I guess I wasn’t that sane before.

(Source: littlelordkieren, via qhuinn)

8PM
“I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?””

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

(via startrekrenegades)

Oh my gosh, yes.  Even narrowing it down helps; I panic a little bit when someone asks me something really broad like “where should we go for dinner?” but if someone’s like “hey, I feel like getting Indian tonight” or “let’s go someplace in this neighborhood” it is so much easier.

(via aneternalscoutandabrownie)

(via gryffindork75)

8PM
“I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?””

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

(via startrekrenegades)

Oh my gosh, yes.  Even narrowing it down helps; I panic a little bit when someone asks me something really broad like “where should we go for dinner?” but if someone’s like “hey, I feel like getting Indian tonight” or “let’s go someplace in this neighborhood” it is so much easier.

(via aneternalscoutandabrownie)

(via gryffindork75)

8PM

vondell-swain:

i want a shirt that says “eat or die” because at first it sounds rebellious but its just a reminder

(Source: itsvondell, via applesareperfection)

8PM

wsswatson:

people are like “i can’t believe you prefer animals to people” and i’m like “okay but my cats have never said anything misogynistic or racist or queerphobic”

(via iamthetwickster)

8PM

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

uozumi:

Shout out to Supernatural for making a couple canon without kissyface.

image

extra points for not even using the word ‘love’ and still making it the most obvious thing in the history of history

(Source: uozlulu, via iamthetwickster)

8PM

gravitywon:

Claudia Stilinski AU / Talia Hale AU (In which Stiles doesn’t get to see his mother but helps Derek see Talia.)

(via thepsychicclam)

8PM
charliewinchester:

Sterek Week

↳ Saturday : Texture Me Sterek

charliewinchester:

Sterek Week

↳ Saturday : Texture Me Sterek

(via thepsychicclam)

8PM

lilmiss-fallen-angel:

green-eyed-rising-demon:

callurn:

timeladyonthetardis:

callurn:

cyanide123:

callurn:

if a girl is angry about something and you blame it on her period, you deserve a high five

with a car

You’re on your period right?

I am a 17 year old boy

i love how you felt the need to add your age there

Everyone knows that boys don’t get their periods
until they’re 20 at least

image

I was expecting something bloody but this is so much better

(via inukagome15)

8PM

Masquerade - Sterek AU

(Source: j2asndh, via blaineswolf)

7PM

turntable-thoughts:

glittergooch:

I hate when black clothes are a slightly different black and don’t match

we joke but this is an actual thing

(Source: daddydom420, via speak-with-passion)

7PM

(Source: meerareed, via mysnarkyself)

6PM

betalars:

friend-zoning guys is horrible. it is disgusting. funzone them instead. send them to a small childs park so they can cry with the other babies when they dont get what they want.

(Source: plutoroyal, via plutotakesover)

3PM

Allison gave her…

(Source: overcome-by-you, via salazarsslytherin)

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